Whats with the age?

We may not really feel our age but some instances make us realize that it is growing. Some of them are here.

When we,

• Start quoting examples from our life for different situations
• Quote an Illaiyaraja song to suit a particular situation, but the listener is not aware of that song
• Start liking “magaali” pickle
• Our niece ask us about the recipe of ONLY traditional dishes
• Start giving least importance to heat injuries (சூடு) during cooking
• Noticing children’s transition from “mom knows everything” to “mom knows nothing” (thankfully this has not arrived yet for me)
• Find Sidharth Malhothra is too handsome but as he is so younger we cannot feel the same crush like we used to have for Surya, Ajith or SRK

If we ponder about it, we cannot behave for a particular age (Is there any concept something like this?).

We behave like,  

• Teens when we talk with our school/college friends/cousins
• Matured / responsible when we are with relatives
• Buddies with our children
• Kids with our parents

So what is our exact age? Don’t think too much about it. It is just a number which keeps increasing. That’s all.

Niece!

Niece or nephew is one of the most special relations one can ever have. My niece is also very special to me. She is Sahana. She is an “arundha vaalu” when she plays with my daughter. Otherwise she is so matured. You cannot see her get surprised. Funny thing is you do whatever to surprise her, but you can still see her just calm and express in one word “its good”.

She is so intelligent, very accommodative, very adjustable in nature etc etc. I can bet no children of her age can be so co-operative to their parents. Very disciplined brought up.   

Here are few funny incidents I remember about her when she was just 5 years old. She came on a vacation from US when I was 7 months pregnant and she was curious to see the baby inside me. I said “darling, you cannot see the baby as it is inside my tummy.” I guess she got intimidated and immediately responded “Yuckyyy…why did you eat the baby athai?”

When she again came next year for vacation, my baby was 7 months old. I guess she would have thought she can play with the baby like she does with her friends. But she was bored in 10 mins with the baby and she said “athai, give the baby to paatti and come… lets play”.

Again another time when my baby got cold & cough, my niece asked how did the baby catch the cold. I told her may be because of the shampoo bath that I gave her. She got intimidated and asked me “Athai, why did you feed shampoo baath to baby?”

And a couple of years ago, I was telling my niece that I used to write letters in post cards or inland letters to friends and relatives when I was young like her. She innocently asked me “how did you send those letters… with the help of pigeons?”. She made me intimidated this time. I wonder what she thought of my age!

Chak de India!

I happened to see an interview of actor Nargis Fakhri on some tv channel last weekend. I hardly know about her but only her English accent drew my attention to see that program, when I was flipping between the channels.

She shared many things about her. As future plans she said she wants to do farming and wants to have lots of pets. When asked about wedding and having children of her own, she said she may not want a child of her own. She may adopt one or donate money to an orphanage. I think most of the Westerners think like this.

I have never heard of any western couples who lives together,

• Without an understanding between them
• Without self-respect and mutual respect for each other 
• Longing to have their own children
• Feeling lost with their children's love marriage
• Saving most of the money he earns by buying property / gold and live a poor life.

India is known for its culture, but most of the time culture turns into a pressure on humans to lose self-respect and happiness. Indians should understand these things:

• Live for today
• Don’t participate in a rat race to earn money
• Enjoy the life with the money you earn
• Go on a family/friends tour. Spend time with family/friends.
• Self-respect is important. Have it and let others also to enjoy it.
• Wedding is not compulsory. 
• Having children of your own is optional. Society's pressure is more on this. The result is so many infertility clinics make huge business.
• Help others. Respect elders. Be a good human being.  

If we want to see changes, then every individual must get the right attitude and the broad mind.

Lets hope and wish for healthier generations ahead.

Chak de India!